This is a real question: Why do a lot of men/boys hate (yes,...

So, a man being judged by how tall he is, how rich he is, how much hair he's got, etc. - it all just reminds them of how powerless they are in these matters.

Women who tell men their criteria and reject them on the basis of them not meeting those criteria cause the men they reject this way to experience the feeling of being cheated, which they can easily blame the woman for.

It's a matter of projection.

I caught my husband of 20 years looking at inappropriate pics of women on TikTok or Instagram. I'm not sure., but when I told him he got mad and made excuses of why they popped up. I then told him how I've snuck on his phone and saw what he's been looking at . We had a horrible big fight. I asked him why did he even marry me when I see the type he likes . Nothing like me, I'm petite, blonde and blue eyes. These women are dark haired dark eyed and have curvy bodies, large breasts, etc. I just don't feel the same about him after this. I can't get over this

Especially when they feel that they have little to no control over what measure they are judged by.

Being cheated is one of the most visceral negative feelings humans can feel. It's infuriating and deeply humiliating.

Feeling powerless is closely related to feeling cheated, and it's an easy leap to blame not fate, but the person passing the judgement.

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This is not to excuse such behavior, only to explain it.

People always resent being told they are not good enough.

This is a real question: Why do a lot of men/boys hate (yes, hate) women that voice their criteria in choosing a partner? Even when the criteria is sane and responsible. Besides it being, sadly, an effective mating strategy, why does it exist?

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